Experiencing depression can feel overwhelming, affecting your ability to do everyday things.

It’s natural to want to help a loved one through something so difficult, even if you’re not always sure where to begin.

1. Start with gentle, low-pressure communication 

Be patient. Depression can make reaching out feel overwhelming, so try small, steady communication. Use simple, open invitations like “I’m here if you want to talk,” and let them set the pace and tone. 

2. Listen without trying to fix everything 

Someone experiencing depression may need space to be heard rather than solutions. Focus on listening instead of offering quick advice, validate their feelings, and avoid minimising what they’re going through. 

3. Encourage enjoyable activities 

Depression can make people stop doing things they used to enjoy. Gently suggest simple activities they might like, such as a walk, a coffee, or watching a film. If they do not feel up to it, respect their choice and try again another time.

4. Encourage professional help when appropriate 

Gently suggest speaking to a GP or mental health professional and offer to help them find information or attend an appointment. If they don’t want treatment, explain your concerns, outline the support available, and offer practical help while respecting their pace and boundaries.