Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - Carers
What if I am a carer, friend or relative?
As a carer, friend or family member of someone living with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might find that you need support.
It can be useful to learn about the disorder as much as possible. This may help you to:
- support the person who has BPD,
- understand why they may act in certain ways, and perhaps take things less personally, and
- become more aware of what situations make them more distressed.
Learning about BPD was the most important thing I did to help understand the pain that my partner was going through. I learned how to best help her in moments of extreme emotional pain. I am now able to de-escalate situations quicker, leaving my partner comforted instead of feeling distant. It has improved our relationship a great deal and brought us closer.
There are books available that may help. These include:
- ‘Stop Walking on Eggshells’ by Mason & Kreger, and
- ‘I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me’ by Kreisman & Straus
It is important to get support if are struggling to cope. See if there is a local support group which you can join. You could ask social services for a carer’s assessment to see if they can help.
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