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#1 User is offline   firemonkey 

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Posted 21 March 2012 - 08:37 PM

On a week i see member(s) of my family-which is not very often- about 158/168. Otherwise about 165-166/168.

I wish there was a drop in near me that was easy for me to get to.
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the feeling we are possessed by a 'subtle lack of togetherness'




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Posted 21 March 2012 - 08:49 PM

I hardly see family they're in brum, brother in london i hardly see though he did ask me to come round and babysit when virgin media was been installed

Drop ins i can't even fit in at day centres, got an issue with the antisocial behaviour of certain people dare i say it
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Posted 21 March 2012 - 09:00 PM

Drop ins twenty years ago had essentially genuine cases, people like that are now coping in the commmunity like rhambo, fiermoneky or me but now its druggies with self inflicted probs looking to thieve your jacket at drop ins, or cadge a tenner off you, with those special threatening tones. These 'undserving poor' druggie thieves had lonely lives twenty years ago - now they are in the warmth organising, getting help with work etc. It's all upside down now.

A society this far out of wack, with this much debt etc isn't gonna go on as it is doing - interesting times approach and at least we'll have less to lose than most people when TSHTF on things.


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Posted 21 March 2012 - 09:10 PM

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Posted 21 March 2012 - 09:23 PM

Found this article.

http://www.livescien...ease-today.html

Looks like you are not alone in being alone FM, if the same holds true over here? Things might change the other way in some drastic chaotic situation where people have to rely on each other for genuine needs?
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Posted 18 April 2012 - 10:57 AM

I like being alone,i find most people hard to tolerate.
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Posted 20 April 2012 - 11:42 AM

Apart from my mum and my dog i am always alone. I have been trying to get out and about again but when i try to reconnect with my old friends they dont want to know they have all moved on. Stuck in a bit of a rut at the minute dont know what to do. I think that is the worst think about being mentally ill is the social isolation its the only illness where people avoid you and have no empathy for you because they think its your own fault and you should just snap yourself out of it.
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Posted 20 April 2012 - 11:58 AM

View PostWolfwoman, on 20 April 2012 - 12:42 PM, said:

Apart from my mum and my dog i am always alone. I have been trying to get out and about again but when i try to reconnect with my old friends they dont want to know they have all moved on. Stuck in a bit of a rut at the minute dont know what to do. I think that is the worst think about being mentally ill is the social isolation its the only illness where people avoid you and have no empathy for you because they think its your own fault and you should just snap yourself out of it.


Yeah. That's true. It is ironic when the shrinks say we lack the insight.
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Posted 20 April 2012 - 06:11 PM

i have many friends , because i have the ability to switch on a light in my brain in company. Its not really me its my twin funny mad anything goes head. Its only in breakdowns that people see the other me , an usually thats my family an close friend,s . Even my sister,s bought into the other me, an i carnt be close to them for that reason. I didnt like my own father when he was alive, he new the real me because he was the same but chose denile an a life of missory. The real me likes my own company an solitude , an to be lost in my own world . The other world is for people around me not me , i can be comfortable in it , because people have always been in denile about my illness because they never see what i dont want them to, only when impossible to hide Posted Image.
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Posted 20 April 2012 - 06:31 PM

View Postmanic666, on 20 April 2012 - 07:11 PM, said:

i have many friends , because i have the ability to switch on a light in my brain in company. Its not really me its my twin funny mad anything goes head. Its only in breakdowns that people see the other me , an usually thats my family an close friend,s . Even my sister,s bought into the other me, an i carnt be close to them for that reason. I didnt like my own father when he was alive, he new the real me because he was the same but chose denile an a life of missory. The real me likes my own company an solitude , an to be lost in my own world . The other world is for people around me not me , i can be comfortable in it , because people have always been in denile about my illness because they never see what i dont want them to, only when impossible to hide Posted Image.


I like my own company too. People are mostly tedious, some are interesting to know. I was lonely on my own at one time but being married for so many years I do think the grass is always greener on the other side...and that I didn't know how lucky I was. ;)
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Posted 22 April 2012 - 08:41 PM

I spend most days alone, in silence, no tele on, no radio on, just silence, from when I wake in the mornings to abour 16:00 hours Monday to Friday. I have been told I'm not allowed to be alone but there is no-one else just me and my wife, she works, I'm not allowed to work, most days I can't get through the front door, don't know why I can't but I just find it impossible, but on Thursday this week my care worker came round with a psychiatrist and tells me I am no longer going to be in their care. It has taken till today to sink in and I am feeling very anxious about it, why? I can't say, but I don't feel safe any longer, what am I to do? I don't know, I am scared of my thoughts, I am trying hard not to think about things, about my life the crap, the day I actually died and the hospital bringing me back, am I supposed to look to the future? That is too much for me to comprehend. I can see myself ending back into Tolworth hospital again, do I want this to happen? No I don't but I can see it happening.

Sorry I am rambling here but when I think about things I can't stop myself.
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Posted 23 April 2012 - 05:48 PM

View PostRicademus, on 22 April 2012 - 09:41 PM, said:

I spend most days alone, in silence, no tele on, no radio on, just silence, from when I wake in the mornings to abour 16:00 hours Monday to Friday. I have been told I'm not allowed to be alone but there is no-one else just me and my wife, she works, I'm not allowed to work, most days I can't get through the front door, don't know why I can't but I just find it impossible, but on Thursday this week my care worker came round with a psychiatrist and tells me I am no longer going to be in their care. It has taken till today to sink in and I am feeling very anxious about it, why? I can't say, but I don't feel safe any longer, what am I to do? I don't know, I am scared of my thoughts, I am trying hard not to think about things, about my life the crap, the day I actually died and the hospital bringing me back, am I supposed to look to the future? That is too much for me to comprehend. I can see myself ending back into Tolworth hospital again, do I want this to happen? No I don't but I can see it happening.

Sorry I am rambling here but when I think about things I can't stop myself.


They are cutting the umbilical cord you have attached to them , or you will never move forward. Its like CBT you could go every week of your life , but they will tell you goodbye its all down to you now. Thats why i never get involved with theropy an shrinks, most of the time they let you down.
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Posted 23 April 2012 - 08:37 PM

Thanks manic but it shouldn't be like that should it? I feel really let down now< I went to see my GP today and he is not happy that this has happened, but he told me to wait a while and wait and see what they say to him. I trust my GP more than anyone, other than my wife and girls of course, so I will wait and see.
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