Advice and help needed for withdrawn brother.
Posted 28 February 2012 - 05:14 PM
Today I managed via text message to get him to call me. The last time I achieved this was 3 years ago. He told me that in the last 3 years the only places he has been to is work, to the supermarket and to get his hair cut. He says he cannot face any deviation from his routine. I suggested visiting his G.P but he feels unable to contemplate even making the call to book an appointment. I asked him to speak to my Mum, just to keep in touch and he said he would not know how to hold the conversation or what to say. We had 20 minutes on the phone today and I kept the conversation going, but I had to ask a lot of open questions.
I asked him if he would read anything I could find that I could post to him that may help or offer advice and he said he would. I'm not confident though.
I am completely out of my depth here and except for researching and printing some articles for him I don't know how to help.
Any advice therefore would be gratefully received.
Posted 28 February 2012 - 07:16 PM
Posted 29 February 2012 - 03:22 PM
I think this is a step too far at the moment. He doesn't even want me to visit let alone go to the Doctors with him.
Posted 29 February 2012 - 06:51 PM
Posted 29 February 2012 - 07:43 PM
He could be choosing to live this way but the the way he talks suggest he would like to get back to a more normal existence but is incapable of making the decision to do so, let alone visiting a doctor or support group.
Posted 05 March 2012 - 06:05 PM
You might like to contact our Advice and Information Service for ideas on how you could support your brother to get help, and the routes he could take if he was to start trying to get help. As you said, a GP is a good start if he wants to take that step.
They could also suggest some literature that might be helpful for your brother as he said he was interested in finding out more. It sounds like he is interested and it could help for him to have some options available so he can think about them first.
I'm sure you are also helping a lot just by talking to him about it and giving him the chance to start the conversation.
All the best,