sweetpea, on 28 November 2011 - 11:10 PM, said:
Ah, thank you both of you. Am feeling quite emotional today so it's been nice getting your messages.
I do try to be there for my brother but I'm not perfect by any means. I can't always have that much contact with him - he can be very difficult to be around sometimes. I know it's because of his illness and i try to remember that. But sometimes i need to distance myself from it all and get on with my own life. At the moment I'm feeing really guilty for not making more of an effort on a regular basis, when he must feel so lonely. He can be a difficult person to have in my life, but I feel like I need to try and be there for him more. He doesn't really have anyone else apart from me and my parents.
I'm feeling particularly sad today about the injustice of it all. Why does this have to happen to my brother? Why does he have this illness which means that nearly all of his friends have abandoned him, and he can't build the career for himself that he wants, and he lives in a council flat with very little money to get by on, and he's about four stone overweight because of emotional over-eating. It just makes me feel so so sad for him.
Sorry, just need to have a bit of a rant and get some of this out.
Thanks for being there.
Hi Sweetpea and others
I have just read all of this post and cried the whole way through. Almost everything you have said I am currently experiencing. I have only just found this site and it is a blessing. I am 27 and my brother is 18. He refuses to talk to my parents, I am his only support, so fortunately I do get information from his doctors but only to a certain point because he is an adult. He was sectioned to hospital this week for the first time, he isn’t diagnosed yet. (If you’re interested see my post looking for advice. I wont repeat it all again here. I posted before I read your experiences).
I feel like I have just been crying and crying. It is an amazing relief to find others in a similar situation. I feel my friends have had enough of me, it is just too hard to help. I don’t know what would help anyway. I feel sick most of the time I am so stressed. I am so sad for my brother. I miss him. His decline was very rapid and very significant. So much of him changed so very fast. I feel the brother I knew isn’t there at the moment.
It is great to hear hope from others that meds do help. I would also love to hear from sufferers of mental illness if anyone said anything useful to you which helped you understand?
I find it hard to not just rant and rant myself. It is so unfair and mental health is so hard to deal with. It is consuming so many of my own thoughts, I feel so guilty, there is so many things he needs help with – what should I do, I want to just burry my head in the sand and make it go away. Yes I hear you I am parenting my parents! Particularly because my brother refuses to talk to my parents I am the only one dealing with him face to face and dealing with the hospital and nurses and hours of his ‘manic’ talk.
I would love to talk to you more and hear how you are dealing with it. I think we are in very similar situations. I am struggling the most with how you help someone who doesn’t know they are sick?
Sorry another essay. There is just so much to deal with!
I hope your brother is doing ok today.
Thank you in advance for any advice you can share.