Dealing with scars

Many scars from self harm are in places that are covered by clothing, but sometimes they can be in places that are more likely to be seen. For some people, this is ok, as it reminds them of the pain they have been through. For others they may want to find ways of getting rid of them. It all depends on the person, and each person’s feelings are equally valid.

Dealing with unpleasant questions

If scars are uncovered it is likely that at some time someone will ask what happened. People on the whole do not want to make you uncomfortable. Quite often the easiest solution is to laugh and say "it's a long story".

boy and girl sitting against a wall talking

In the end you have to choose what you feel most comfortable with for an individual situation. Sometimes saying something funny is a polite way of saying "none of your business" but other times you may want to tell them that you did it.

Dealing with scars themselves

Many people, especially when they are with people who do not know about their self harm hide or minimise their scars. Scars can be easily hidden with long sleeved tops and trousers.

Good wound care can reduce scarring in the first place but some people find concealer works for smaller scars.